Vernyoga - In Person & Online Counselling. Weybridge & Hersham

Talking Therapies

Held in Hersham on Fridays 11-3pm

Relaxation Therapies and Talking Therapies are often combined for best effect.

I have been counsellor / life coach and therapist for 17 years via voluntary, charity and private work mostly for lifestyle, weight management and nutrition, bereavement, separation, relationships, phobias, anxiety and panic, depression, stress, eating disorders, confidence and self-esteem and sleep disorders. My speciality areas are CBT, Basic Hypnotherapy Techniques, EFT and Mindfulness for menopause management, stress reduction, insomnia, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, dysautonmia, fibromaygia, long covid management

I have counselled the bereaved by suicide. This is something I have life experience of and is hard to cope with when you feel no one can really understand unless they have been there, so I’m not just a counsellor who has learnt everything from a textbook, I can empathise with how you really feel.

Bereavement of this kind needs special understanding of the many stages of grief you go through, and in many ways this form of bereavement can take longer than any other as it’s the choice of the individual and the people left behind have so many questions.

My Style of Counselling:

I wouldn’t say I have one particular style as my study and experience is eclectic. I prefer to adapt to my clients needs as I believe what one approach may work for one, may not work for another.

However approaches I specialize mostly in are:

Yoga Breathwork and Relaxation therapies to control anxiety, help sleep and stress, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Emotional Freedom technique (EFT) Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) to help thought and behaviour patterns and clinical Hypnotherapy.

I offer counselling online via Zoom

What you confide in me is totally confidential, otherwise the service would be pointless and I’m accountable to UK law, and work in accordance with the BACP, BPS, MSFTR and CCC codes of ethics.

You can tell me about any issue that affects your emotions, even if you don’t know what is affecting you or why. I have found online counselling to be a really good place to start tackling most things and I will adjust my style of work to suit you.

I’m trained to say what I think and feel about your situation and for some this can be painful, if I ever offend in anyway or you are unhappy about something, you only ever have to say as its YOU that is paying for the service. However, if you only want a counsellor that JUST asks you if you’re alright all the time, then my service is not for you, however it would be something I would start off with to gauge your current feelings, situation and mood.

By all means get in touch if you want to know more. My intention here is to provide a good counselling service that is of help to you.

I’m open to any feedback and suggestions you have about the service and the website.

“The saying that time heals all wounds is not necessarily true for everyone. Time is necessary for healing, but time is not enough. Shared feelings enrich and lead to growth and healing”

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Understanding some techiniques & therapies:

COUNSELLING
In today’s society there are so many stresses and strains that occur for reasons within or outside our control. These may be as a result of our past, present or future, and may include issues relating to family, money, relationships, expectations, loss, fear, disorders, illness, work, etc.
As a result, more and more people are discovering the benefits of counselling. Counselling offers you a chance to talk things through, give you the opportunity to explore the difficulties in your life, and empower you to make the best decisions about what to do.

NEURO LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING
Neuro – relates to the mind
Linguistic – relates to language
Programming – the sequence of actions used to achieve an outcome

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) studies the structure of how humans think and experience the world. It is a systematic study of human communications. The structure of NLP is subjective and thus does not lend itself to precise, statistical formulae. Instead it leads to models of how these things work.
People make the best-known choice they have at any given time. However the more choices a person has, the better chance they have of success. Through NLP people can learn to achieve better choice/change and improve their personal and/or professional lives.

Some areas in which NLP can be applied include relationship difficulties, negotiation and mediation, fears and phobias, trauma, habits and compulsions, lack of social skills, difficulty in relaxing, chronic injury or pain, life planning, motivation issues, lack of confidence, lack of assertiveness, unproductive meetings, decision making, creativity and cognitive problem solving, time management, etc

COGNITIVE BEHAVIOURAL THERAPY
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is based on the concept that changing negative thinking patterns and behaviours can have a powerful effect on a person's emotional state.
CBT is a psychological approach, based on scientific principles that have shown to be effective for a wide range of problems with young people, adults, families & individuals. CBT is also based on the logic and belief in the power of the individual to take charge, and to control and change their negative thoughts, feelings and actions.
CBT usually focuses on the “here and now” issues rather than focusing on things from the past. However past issues are focused on where necessary. The therapy normally has three stages: a beginning, a middle and an end. The process employs a very directive, action-oriented approach, which teaches a person to explore, identify and analyse dysfunctional patterns of thinking and acting. This is achieved by the client and therapist working together to identify and understand problems in terms of the relationship between thoughts, feelings and behaviour. Once the problems and counter productive patterns are identified and analysed a programme of intervention is established and designed specifically to the needs of the individual.
The client will learn to develop alternative and more constructive viewpoints to tackle their problems.

CBT is also very helpful in the management of chronic pain, fear, after illness, menopause management.